6 Tips if You’re thinking of living with your in laws

6 Tips if You’re thinking of living with your in laws

BY Laura Lovejoy

Living with your own parents is hard enough. Living with someone else’s is worse. If you get fed up of your mum telling you to do stuff, you just shout at her and she still loves you. If your Dad keeps hogging the TV remote, you just shout at him and he still loves you. However, if this is your other halves’ parents they will equally drive you up the wall but you just won’t be able to say anything. Weigh up all the pros and cons and imagine living with your own parents, but worse, and if you can handle that, move on to the below tips that are brought to you by someone stupid enough to take the plunge themselves.

Bite your tongue. This is vital. No matter how much your other halves’ parents upset you or are rude to you, don’t say anything. By all means tell your partner that you feel they are taking the piss and even ask him for advice on how to navigate the situation but just don’t have a sudden outburst. You are living in their house, under their rules and no matter how unreasonable or immature they are being, be the bigger person and walk away.

Don’t take it for granted.  It can be pretty cushty when your living at a potentially discounted, or even free rate. Just remember that it can be taken away from you in a second.  Not just because your in-laws might want you out but if you and your partner split up, then what?  Unless you have a contingency plan then you could really fall on your arse and end up in a worse situation than living with someone else’s rents.

Don’t say bad things about their family. This is similar to my first point but being careful what you’re saying about someone else family could avoid a lot of drama. It’s okay for someone to say something mean about their own family but it turns into murky waters when you’re the one being nasty. Depending on the relationship your partner and their parent’s have, you may also run the risk of the things you’ve said getting back to them, and that is just plain awkward.

Don’t loose yourself. Giving up living with your family, or even your friends is a big deal. It’s easy to fall into the trap of living differently to how you want to. You might find yourself going out less or catering to your in-laws demands a little too much. You might stop having that long bath you love to have on a Sunday or you might stop watching TOWIE because his parent’s think it’s silly. Just make sure you keep some time for yourself to do what you want to do.

Think long and hard about it. It’s not a decision to take lightly. You might love their Mum and Dad but could you really live there? Think about every little detail from going to the toilet or sharing a bathroom with your partners Dad. Most importantly, think about getting inmate – I can almost guarantee you will have no sex life.

Just don’t do it. If the above hasn’t put you off enough then listen to this, do not, under any circumstance move in with your in-laws. Nothing good will ever come out of it. You may save some money in the short term but it could damage your relationship with your partners family in the long term. Take it from someone who knows.

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  1. bethany
    February 17, 2017 / 1:40 am

    This is so honest and a real eye opener. Is this personal experience? I’ve been asked recently but it just dosent sit Right!?.

    • Laura Lovejoy
      February 17, 2017 / 9:41 am

      Yes, this is from personal experience. I thought it was a good idea at the time and I lived there for a good year or so but it ended in a bad way and while it has actually made me and boyfriend stronger, it could have very easily gone the other way. It’s really not something I would recommend.

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