By Laura Lovejoy
I remember having a conversation with someone about Beyonce and they really had it in for her. The conversation went along the lines of how can Beyonce call herself a feminist, she is married and is always singing songs about Jay Z. Pause for a second and read that sentence again. Beyonce loves her husband, so she simply cannot believe in the equality of the sexes.
I personally have a big problem with the term feminism but calling yourself a feminist doesn’t mean you don’t shave your armpits, hate all men and are celibate. God forbid should you ever decide to spend your life with a man, it means you turn your back on freedom and your fellow womankind and give your life up to do chores, what is this, the fucking 1800s?
Granted, the person I had this conversation with was very drunk and it was like 3am but, it got me thinking about how most of the time if you imagine a girl power champion, she is single. The minute you get in a relationship you loose that “I can do it on my own” independent woman sass.
Well, let me tell you something. Just because you join forces with a man doesn’t mean you aren’t independent. I work fucking hard, I go to work five days a week, blog in my spare time, play netball, I help Clint out with his business, I pay for the half the bills, I pay for holidays, I bought my own car… if that’s not independent then I don’t know what is?
To be honest, I don’t think you can truly learn to be independent unless you’re in a relationship. If you’re single then what other choice do you have? You have to manage on your own but when you’re in a relationship you choose to do things on your own.
Yes, you might have to consider someone else’s feelings and understand that your actions can impact your partner but when you come together with a man who appreciates your independence, encourages it and has the same drive and ambition as you, that’s when your life begins, not stops!