Dating a Younger Guy

Dating a Younger Guy

It's Not Me, It's You Dating a Younger Guy

By Laura Lovejoy

I cannot stand the thought of dating a younger guy. I don’t care if someone was the most gorgeous guy on the planet, I simply could not date him. Yet, ageism is the biggest insult I can ever endure, I dare someone to bring up my age in argument or to think that I am incompetent at my job because of my age, they will feel the FULL Lovejoy wrath and that is something that has been famous for generations (us Lovejoy’s have quite the temper).

I know that’s super hypocritical but it gets weirder because Clint might be 8 years older than me but when it comes down to maturity I far exceed him. Although I will give him his dues as he’s grown up about 7 years since we’ve been together and he’s getting towards where a 30-year-old man should be but when I met him, he might as well have been 18. So where does my problem with age stem from? It’s not like I can say that with age comes maturity because Clint is living proof that’s not true.

Recently, my best friend got with a 20-year-old, she is 22. It’s a two year age gap, which is nothing. If this was the other way round I wouldn’t have a problem at all but for ages, I found it hard to get my head around. I can write this because I am pretty sure that she never reads my blog anyway but if you are reading this, hello Amy.

If she had got with a guy that was 32, I would have thought nothing of it. And her 20-year-old boyfriend makes her very happy, they go out and do things that she would have never done before, it’s not like his age matters in any way but still, I have some bizarre weirdness around it.

It has totally baffled me, I have no explanation for it and I know that it’s wrong. It’s not fair for a female to always be the youngest in a relationship, men have the right to be younger too but I just can’t pin point why I feel this way.

I would love to hear if you have any experiences of dating younger guys or if you agree/disagree or can even come to some conclusion as to why I feel so strongly about this, so please do comment below.




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  1. Nikki
    September 24, 2017 / 11:44 pm

    I’m 10 years older than my boyfriend and never been happier, his nature for his age I don’t feel there is an age gap at all if I’m honest! I’ve always dated younger guys just how it’s happened but this is the biggest gap!

    • September 25, 2017 / 10:23 am

      That’s interesting. I have an 8 year gap between me and my boyfriend, I am the younger one although most of the time it doesn’t feel like it and I don’t really notice it either. How old are you if you don’t mind me asking? I worry that it’s when you get older (50+) that you start noticing a 8-10+ year age gap.

      • January 30, 2018 / 2:31 am

        Hi! I have been perusing blogs about the younger man\older woman scenario…its a rather unique scenario if you are in one as it still has an element of taboo…I am in a healthy relationship with a man 20 years younger and it’s not the sex that keeps us together, surprisingly. Its the respect and kindness and laughter…he is a little more mature and I am a little less so. It is possible perhaps not probable…but I consider myself lucky and if you were to ask him he feels the same way.

        • January 30, 2018 / 8:21 am

          I guess every situation is different and there is no reason that you shouldn’t be happy but you’re right, that kind of age gap is always seen as a taboo. I assume people can be quite judgemental? If you’re dating an older man then you’re a gold digger and if it’s an older woman you’re a toy boy – people barely look beyond that and it’s sad. I’m not sure how old you are at the moment but do you think you will start having issues when you are older? When you’re ready to slow things down but he wants to carry on at the same pace. My parents are at that point now and there is only 10 years between them.

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