Having Doubts In A Relationship

Having Doubts In A Relationship

I am not the kind of person who believes you just meet someone and that’s it, you are in blind love forever and never have any doubts. Maybe that’s because I haven’t had that kind of relationship but no one I know has, my own parents even got married, got divorced and then got remarried. I believe that relationships are full of ups and downs and that from time to time you are undoubtedly going to have doubts.

Yet, every time I have a doubt, no matter how big or small, I feel ashamed. Even as I am writing I think people reading this are going to think that I don’t really love Clint or because I have sometimes been unsure if I want to be in our relationship that we are never going to last.

Laura and Clint - It's Not Me, It's youTo be honest, I’ve had a lot of doubts in my relationship recently. That’s not to say that I don’t want to be in it anymore or that I don’t love Clint but there have been factors that have made me wonder what life would be like if I was single. Not in the sense that I want to be free and go around getting with whatever guy I want but I was feeling very isolated and the relationship felt like a lot of hard work on my side with very little in return.

I have been really open with Clint about this and we have worked through those issues and I now feel that we are heading on the right track but I shouldn’t feel bad for having my doubts.

If someone is doing all they can to make you happy and you’re having doubts then that is a different issue but if someone is behaving in a certain way or has said something in an argument which has led you to have doubts then it’s more likely you can work through it.

Doubts in a relationship -It's Not Me, It's You

Would it upset me if Clint was having doubts about me? Of course, it would. But doubts are a way for people to consider options and in many ways encourage healthy conversation. I had doubts, we spoke about them and we are working on them and to be honest, my relationship is better for it.

So, I am pledging to no longer feel bad about doubts in my relationship and when they do come up, to turn them into a positive. Relationships are fucking hard work and anyone who tells you anything different is lying, but by communicating and being honest with each other you can get through pretty much anything.

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  1. April 1, 2018 / 6:04 pm

    I agree with you. Doubts are what gives me headaches at night lol. My boyfriend and I have been with each other for 2 years but I always think that one day he will just up and leave me or not love me anymore. I just always need that reassurance that he’s here for good. Whenever I start thinking about doubts, I just think about how great we are for each other and how he’s like my soulmate.

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