The Key To A Happy Relationship

The Key To A Happy Relationship

Everyone thinks the key to a happy relationship is communication, giving each other space and/or loyalty but you’re all wrong. The key to a happy relationship is actually… (drum roll please)… sleeping with separate covers.

Okay, so communication and loyalty are pretty important, if not essential in a relationship but so is sleep and I can honestly say that since sleeping with separate covers we both sleep a million times better than we used to. Better sleep means less fighting, more productivity, less stress and it even helps you keep weight off. It’s a no-brainer for both you and your relationship!

I was recently sent some research from Mattress Advisor which looks at how sleep impacts your relationships and it found that 74.5% of people that slept poorly said they felt happy in their relationship. This isn’t bad going but out of those who slept well, 95.9% of people said were happy in their relationship. Proving that a good sleep can impact the way you feel about your relationship.

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Sleeping with separate covers wasn’t the result of a huge fight over one of us stealing the covers, although we did use to have those, it actually came from when Clint had a motorbike accident. His leg was in quite a bad way and I had to be super careful not to touch it after surgery. This was nearly two years ago now and neither of us has looked back since.

To be honest, if I had my way, we would sleep in different beds, possibly even in separate rooms. Don’t get me wrong, I love him to bits and love having a cuddle in bed but without 8 hours of solid sleep I am a demon. I cry like a toddler and cause arguments over petty shit and then get really silly, running around the house until I crash out.

This isn’t fun to watch but Clint is used to it now. He would hate to have separate beds and sometimes even sneaks into just my cover but the person who had the idea for humans to share a bed with our partners was a little bonkers in my eyes and seriously underestimated the power of sleep. Surely it makes more sense for us to sleep on our own?

People often frown when I explain that we have two covers, our cleaner was very confused when she first went to change our bed but I couldn’t recommend it highly enough. If we all got a little more sleep the world, and most certainly our relationships, would be a much better place.



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  1. Heather Henken
    February 19, 2018 / 2:43 am

    I think it’s a great idea. We have a king size bed so separate covers might work. Thanks for sharing

  2. February 20, 2018 / 3:13 pm

    We actually do this and I sleep MUCH better because of it! I like to sleep bundled and I can NOT sleep if I’m hot and his body heat makes me hot lol.

    I understand why older couples at some point get their own rooms or beds. Sleep can be a point of contention.

  3. April 1, 2018 / 6:04 pm

    Hahaha lord knows sleeping in the same bed with my boyfriend, by the time morning comes, I am shivering with no covers lol. I hateee it. Separate covers will so be a thing for us.

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