I have had so many shitty friends. Friends that I thought were the best thing since sliced bread but were really like mouldy pieces of toast so as I’ve got older, I’ve become extremely particular about who I spend my time with. I don’t have time for fake-ass bitches and despite the difficulties of finding friends as an adult, my life is so much better for it.
The biggest issue with friendships, especially as you get older is that people change and because they are our friends we feel that we have a special loyalty to them. Yet, someone you went to school with may have turned into a bitch and tries to out-do you at every given moment, and maybe with some friends, it feels forced and isn’t fun anymore but because you’ve known each other 10 years you carry on seeing them every other month because you feel guilty to let them down.
To an extent, you can try and work it out but you wouldn’t put up with that behaviour in a relationship so why let friends treat you like it? Besides the obvious, relationships with good friends aren’t that different to romantic relationships (unless you’re friends with benefits of course), which is why if you’re not getting what you think you should out of a friendship, I think it’s perfectly ok to break up.
It might sound a bit dramatic to just ‘break up’ with your mate but, in my eyes, it’s the grown-up thing to do. Sitting down and talking about your feelings and why you need to distance yourself is far kinder than one day just stopping answering texts and calls or always making excuses. The most difficult conversations are quite often the most important ones to have.
Life is so full of negativity and if people took more care of how they were feeling rather than worrying about upsetting everyone all the time, the world would be a much happier place. Don’t feel bad about having that awkward conversation with a friend, you might actually end up having a stronger friendship for it and if you do decide to break up for good with a bad friend you will feel much better for it – it’s a win win.