I was recently sent data which surveyed 1000 people to find out how many people snoop behind their partners back and why they do it. It’s a tough one. On one hand, going through someone’s stuff without their permission is wrong but the need to know if they are being true to you sometimes gets too much. We’ve all done crazy and out of character shit from time to time, right?
What is interesting is that the newer the relationship, the more likely people are to turn detective. I made no secret of doing it when I first got with my boyfriend. It wasn’t a regular thing, but I would have a look through his messages here and there or log in to his Facebook from time to time out of fear he was doing something I wouldn’t like.
The tricky thing is that trust takes time to build and while trying to catch them out is wrong, it’s easy to justify to ourselves. I wanted to protect myself and while I didn’t have a reason to not trust him, I also didn’t have a reason to trust him.
Now, we pick up each other’s phones like their our own. If his battery is dead and he needs to make a call he wouldn’t think twice about using up my phone and vice versa. The difference is that we trust each other, wholeheartedly. We have nothing to hide from each other.
Having that trust and openness with everything gives me no reason to even want to snoop. If my boyfriend suddenly started hiding things or locking his phone away, then I would start to worry but we have a strong relationship so I know that wouldn’t happen.
Unsurprisingly, women are far more likely to snoop than men. I feel that’s because, if the the general population of women are anything like me, they overthink and jump to millions of conclusions before calming down and thinking rationally.
An open and honest relationship should mean that you shouldn’t have to go behind your partner’s back but if you’re feeling the need you have to think about whether they are giving you reason to doubt their loyalty or if the problem is coming from your own insecurities. Yes, trust takes time to build but a relationship without it is barely a relationship at all.
Have you ever snooped on your partner? If so, why and would you do it again?
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