Unless you’re way more liberal than I am, a relationship usually consists of two people and for most, it’s not something you would ever associate with loneliness. I mean, you’ve always got that one person that is there for you, right? You couldn’t possibly ever be lonely.
Well, let me tell you something. It doesn’t matter how long you’ve been in a relationship, or how good your relationship is, you can still end up feeling pretty bloody lonely. The thing with relationships is that you quite often sacrifice things for them. For example, I moved away from the area my friends live in to move in with my boyfriend.
While I don’t regret the decision, it does mean that I am often on my own. I don’t have any friends in the area so if Clint is working late and I haven’t made plans then I have nothing to do and if thing are particularly busy, it can be really difficult when he’s not around.
In a healthy relationship, it’s also important to be able to live your separate lives while still being a couple but sometimes that means that one is far busier than the other and that can be tough. Even though Clint and I live together, sometimes we go weeks without really seeing each other.
He sometimes works for 11+ days in a row, until late and if I have had a shit day at work all I want to do is come home and tell him all about it. Yes, I have friends that I can pick up the the phone to and I quite often do but Clint is my best friend and knows me better than anyone. I want to be able to talk to my boyfriend.
Clint’s off trying to build a company so we can both live the life we dream off and when I’m not working I am blogging, we are both trying to build our empires and while it’s nice to know that I have someone beside me, it doesn’t stop me from feeling lonely from time to time.
If you’re in a similar situation, my advice would be that communication is key. You need to be open and honest about your feelings and figure out ways to put it right. You can’t be expected to give up things but is there a way you could both make a little time for each other?
You have to expect relationships to be lonely from time to time but you also have find other ways to combat this. Make sure that you both have your own lives and you try to see things from each other’s perspective. Also, accept that it is okay to feel alone when you haven’t spent quality time with your partner. You’re a team, when one person is missing you’re going to feel it!