Dating for over 40s

Dating for over 40s

Even though I am still young and I would be comfortable if I was single, I still wouldn’t like to be on my own when I am older. Unfortunately, it’s a reality that anyone can face, whether you’re widowed or just in a relationship that didn’t last as long as you had hoped.

It doesn’t matter if it’s divorce or losing your other half to another woman, moving on can be extremely tough at any age, let alone in your 40s and 50s where there appear to be less available people to chose from and you may have lost your confidence over the years – especially if you haven’t dated in years. You’re also probably very different from the carefree 20 something year old you once were.

If you find yourself in that position, I have put together some tips on getting back in the dating game:

Don’t be afraid of online dating. There used to be a bit of a stigma around online dating like people would only do it if they were desperate but the perception has now shifted and everyone is doing it. I found my boyfriend of four years through Tinder and I’m not ashamed to admit it. That’s just how people meet nowadays and there are sites designed specifically for over 50s dating that can work towards making you feel more comfortable.

If you haven’t ever done online dating before and maybe aren’t as digitally savvy as you feel you ought to be, the sites and apps are super easy to use, there’s nothing to be scared of. There are hundreds of apps and sites that help you find exactly what you are looking for, you might be an older woman looking to create a relationship or friendship with a younger man for example. A simple google search of “meet mature women near me” can you lead you to something that will change your life forever.

Don’t feel embarrassed about not wanting to be alone. We are wired as humans to want to spend our lives with others and it’s perfectly fine to admit you don’t want to be alone. Being older might also mean that you’re looking for something a little different from a relationship. It might become less about passionate whirlwind relationships and more about finding a friendship and companionship.

Get out of your comfort zone. Life is too short to stick to what you know. Put yourself out there and meet new people that your life would have never naturally led you to. Even just signing up to dating site may be well out of your comfort zone but it’s still a step in the right direction.



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  1. October 3, 2018 / 7:07 pm

    Love this post! I was divorced at 40 and feeling a little sorry for myself. I was persuaded to go on and met my soul mate Andy! We have been married 7 years now and couldn’t be happier! ❤️

    • October 3, 2018 / 8:19 pm

      Awww what a lovely story! Glad you’re happy 😊

  2. October 6, 2018 / 9:16 am

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