We’ve been through a few house moves as a couple. The first was me moving in with my boyfriend and his Mum, (if you’re thinking of doing the same – don’t. Or at the very least, read my tips before making a decision). Then we moved to a tiny little flat where we stayed for two years before recently moving into a cute two bedroom house. Considering that up until the age of 18, I had never moved house I’ve become quite a pro at it over the last few years.
However, when there is another person in the mix, especially a boyfriend, moving house quickly turns into a recipe for disaster. Unless executed properly, it can cause arguments over the silliest things, examples include but are not limited to: “Why did you throw away my mug with the crack and chip in it” and “I prefer the sofa against the other wall”.
To help you out, I have put together some tips on moving house as a couple.
Have a system. It might seem anal to delegate jobs but it works. I pack the majority of our stuff and Clint is then in charge of moving it all as well as cleaning the empty house and prepping the new house. I then unpack EVERYTHING. It works because we play to each other’s strengths while staying out of each other’s way. Although, it does mean that 6 months into living somewhere Clint will still have no idea where anything is – despite me showing him numerous times.
Plan ahead. Don’t leave packing until the day you have to move. There are always things you can start getting together before you move, even if it’s just the odd box of pots and pans. It might not seem a lot but it will really make a difference.
Cut some slack. Moving is stressful as there is so much to consider. It goes far beyond just packing and unpacking, there is swapping addresses over, moving the gas and electric, getting back your old deposit… the list goes on. Couples and stressful environments don’t mix so make sure you understand that you’re both under a lot of stress and that’s why your partner is snapping.
Put some money aside. There is nothing worse than moving into a new place and not having the money to make it a home. You haven’t gone through all that stress just to sleep on a bed-less mattress and store your clothes in bin bags. Nine times out of ten, you have advanced warning that you’re going to move so try to put some extra money aside so you can make it special for you both.
Don’t get drunk the night before you’re due to move. To most this probably sounds like common sense. I mean, why would you go out and get hammered the night before you move house? Who would ever dream of inviting friends back for a party THE NIGHT before you move? Me, that’s who! Learn from my mistake and don’t even go out for ‘one’. The night before moving should be spent together getting everything in line for the next day or it becomes a less than enjoyable day.
Have you moved house as a couple recently? Any tips you would share?