Let face it, we all love a big old romantic gesture and while they are important in relationships they aren’t the be all and end all. I’m not saying that I wouldn’t be happy if my boyfriend met me from work on a Friday with a packed suitcase and whisked me unexpectedly on to Paris for the weekend (hint, hint), but romance and love are actually more often in the small stuff.
I think we quite often expect too much of each other in relationships. We look at our partners and think why don’t you ever make me breakfast in bed or surprise me with flowers. These things are nice but we tend to overlook the fact that your boyfriend makes sure you have a glass of water on your bedside table every night or that he charges your toothbrush when you forget.
These are the true signs of love. The less glamorous side that actually means a whole lot more than a diamond ring or a giant teddy bear.
I think there is also a tendency to also super critical of ourselves. It’s easy to feel guilty for forgetting to do the big fluffy gesture, but we don’t realise that it doesn’t take a surprise bit of jewellery or a holiday to show someone that you love them.
Simply bringing someone back their favourite chocolate bar when you’ve been to the shop or running them a hot bubble bath when they get home from a stressful day are easy ways to show someone that you care and that you love them. Yes, big and fancy gestures might sweep you off your feet and make you dizzy with excitement for a couple of days but it’s the small stuff that makes you really fall in love with someone.
Is there something you could do today to show someone you love them?