As much as I loved this year’s Love Island, I am looking forward to having my evenings back. Ah, what I will do with that sweet extra hour added to my evening… probably watch some other reality TV show tbh. Despite all of the bad press and negativity around the show, what can we learn from this year’s Love Island? This series saw drama, after drama, after drama and I spent most of the time on the edge of my seat, shouting at the TV or in tears (ok, the tears were only once and I don’t believe you if you say you had dry eyes after Amy’s speech).
But while we come to terms with the fact that we won’t get to see Ovie crack his joke, Greg showing what good craic he is or Belle shaving Anton’s crack (we’re basically missing out on all the cracks), I have put together five lessons we can learn from Love Island 2019.
Gaslighting is a thing and it’s not ok.
One of the biggest shockers for me was the amount of gaslighting in this series. For those who don’t know, Google’s definition of gaslighting is:
“Gaslighting is a form of psychological manipulation in which a person seeks to sow seeds of doubt in a targeted individual or in members of a targeted group, making them question their own memory, perception, and sanity.”
Cue both Jordan and Michael. I was actually disgusted by how people thought this was acceptable. Like, come on, stop being a twat and own up to your mistakes rather than make other people doubt their own actions. I mean, at least Michael realised he fucked up and apologised but you can see why people have insecurity issues. Spinning a situation where you’re in the wrong to make it looks like someone else’s fault or that they are crazy can be so damaging. There are enough issues affecting our mental health in the world without people behaving like that!
Always take the higher ground
You only have to look at Amy and Amber’s situations to see that taking the higher ground is ALWAYS the best option. Apart from the nasty comment (not cool, Amber, not cool), Amber bossed the situation. She could have quite easily thrown her toys out of the pram, cried, screamed or burnt the villa down but she accepted it for what it was and did what she could to move on. AND then, didn’t make the cardinal sin most of us do. Once she was humiliated and then emotionally abused by Michael, she chose Greg instead of going back to the guy who initially swept her off her feet. There is a lesson for all of us in that!
It’s hard to move on while you’re still around an ex
People jumped from couple to couple as if the show is a competition and 50K is up for grabs, oh wait… Jokes aside, the fact that people moved around highlighted how difficult it is for everyone trying to move on while an ex is still in your life. I get that you probably don’t live in a house with your ex and your new beau but seeing an ex move on is never a nice situation. I genuinely believe that you can’t really forward if someone who still has feelings for you is still in your life. You only have to look at Curtis, Maura and Amy to see that!
Don’t jump into a relationship
I think it’s always good to take your time (says the girl who moved in with her boyfriend less than 12 months after meeting him) and I get that living like that makes time fly but don’t ever jump into a relationship unless 1) you’re 100% sure and 2) you clearly have feelings for someone else. It’s such a shame that Jordan behaved like that with Anna because I think people really rated him before that. I hope he learnt a valuable lesson in how rushing things and not being honest about how you feel can really hurt people’s feelings. I think some people forget how your actions can have a lasting impact, not just on future relationships but also on how people view themselves.
You don’t need a man for self-worth
Amy Hart, take a bow. I didn’t naturally warm to her at first because she’s not someone that I would see in my friendship circle but THAT episode. My word! I sat on a beach in Crete by myself watching it on catch up and I cried so hard. It triggered something in me that I didn’t even know I could feel. It made me question where I was in my life and whether I was putting my happiness or worth in someone else’s hands when I am perfectly capable of providing that for myself. Amy was a great example of someone who took a really shit situation and turned it into something special, something that we can all learn from.
Ultimately, despite the negativity around it, there are still many lessons we can learn from Love Island. I’m opening myself up a can of worms here but what do you think the biggest lesson from this year was?